Where the N/C Marriage Began
After 10 years of married life, most of which we had spent fighting, I was finally directed to information online which led me to suspect that my husband Steve was suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (sometimes also known as Narcissism or NPD).
At that time the professionals I turned to said outright that there was no hope. They treated me like an idiot for believing our marriage could improve and Steve could get better. The only advice they gave me was to change the locks and file for a divorce.
Signs of Narcissism in Your Marriage . . .
Steve’s behaviour was hurting me, but I refused to abandon him. In my heart I knew leaving was the wrong thing to do . . . I still loved Steve and knew there just had to be answers and so I sought all the help and advice I could find. When none of this helped, I started looking beyond traditional marriage counselling advice to corporate leadership training and parent skills training, where at last I stumbled on the first of the steps I would take that finally brought peace to our home.
People were still telling me I was stupid not to leave, but I became hopeful and even more determined that just maybe there was a way I could bring peace and security to our home.”
You must understand I am not saying this was all Steve’s fault. Back then I was focused on Steve being the problem, but I was about to come face to face with my own role in our sad ‘dance’.
I learned this is called codependence (which we prefer to call emotional dependence), which explains why some people are repeatedly attracted to people with a narcissistic view on life. Narcissism and codependence are sometimes called ‘a dance’ (of destruction and despair) . . .
- Have you had difficulty forming happy and peaceful relationships?
- Has attracting lasting love been painful for you?
- Do you often feel emotionally neglected and in despair?
- Have you had more than one troubled relationship in your life?
I want to share with you how I healed my codependence and put a stop to Steve’s poor treatment of me and our children and finally learned how to stand up for myself and how this changed everything for me and also helped Steve.
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Brand new marriage with my husband. Have been with him 5 1/2 years. Ready to leave! Help!!!
I am very interested in more information.
Married 45 years and felt unable to leave till sorted out my side of narcisstic scenario. Still very hard to be still in there as sorting out me has switched me off him……