I write from Steve and my experience, but we have witnessed many women who show signs of a narcissistic view on life. The statistics say more men than women suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder and our audience is about 70/30 women to men.
Female narcissists cause their husbands just as much pain and humiliation and can cause just as much chaos and destruction in their lives. Men who deal with aggression and passive aggression from their partners are also often afraid to ask for help or speak up.
But it’s not black and white or men versus women. Most of us have narcissistic tendencies which can affect our relationships badly. Learning to deal with Steve’s narcissism helped me face my own narcissistic side too. It is easy to see in others but much harder to see in ourselves.”
When it comes down to it the stereotype of a narcissist being a womanising male is not useful in identifying the underlying problem in most dysfunctional relationships. More important than trying to get an accurate diagnosis (which is these cases is often impossible) it is much more important that you learn the rules to keep yourself safe.