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Valentines heart on Gearstick of a carOur work helps those seeking change in their lives — but as long as it is only your mind seeking change, your quest must ultimately fail. 

While it’s true that people suffering from narcissistic traits are stuck in false pride, it’s also true that false pride affects nearly everyone who hasn’t worked to actively destroy its grip on their mind.

A narcissistic individual makes their family miserable — but not as miserable as what they are dealing with in their mind. 

In truth watching the narcissist twist and turn to avoid seeing the truth in themselves offers those close to them an opportunity to witness just how much misery ego and false pride cause our own life.

The narcissist’s false pride focuses on their cleverness, charisma & power, while the codependent’s focus is on being caring and good.

You see our mind by its very nature is self centred . . .

The stories our mind tells us and the plans it makes, are all centred around our own comfort, personal success in the future or rationalising or promoting our deeds from the past. Even when we care and provide for our family or care for others, our mind will tell us stories of how this makes us good.

Overcoming our false pride and learning to be genuinely responsive to others in the moment, ultimately requires that we learn to shut these stories down.

The truth is that following a new path of learning with our mind, can only cause a change in our beliefs . . .   While tackling our false pride requires a change of heart.

The three introductory articles in my master class will help you get into the mind set required and put you in the fast learner’s lane to produce positive and lasting change in your life.

There is a warm group of people waiting to meet you in this online classroom (with 24/7 access) and the details to come join us are all here:

Kim Cooper


For fifteen years, the Coopers have offered themselves as humble guides and mentors, helping families avoid cynicism and chaos. Leading the way as peer support specialists whose own family has traversed love's dangerous terrain.
Taking you to that place inside yourself that you can't go by yourself. Helping you get back in touch with the power of love within you to restore the sanity in your marriage whether you stay or leave.

This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. I so much enjoy and need the insight that if there is a change in the relationship it has to begin with me. I am so thankful there is a source to give hope for a different dynamic other than leave the relationship. Than advise doesn’t address the wounds of the co dependent and necessary healing that is possible within the relationship to produce a change of gaining a healthy relationship.

  2. I like this point – “Overcoming our false pride and learning to be genuinely responsive to others in the moment, ultimately requires that we learn to shut these stories down.”

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