I have found your approach has changed my perspective entirely. I had identified that I was co-dependent, but all of your information about narcissistic personality traits and how they interact with co-dependents rang so true. And the result of the subtle changes in my attitude and all this reading and beginning this emotional work of my own? – he is suddenly flowing with loving kindness towards me. It’s incredible!
I have a new faith in this relationship which I was basically ready to walk out on, until I realised that I would probably just do the same thing all over again and never understand why.
So, thank you for your writing and your research into this area – I have to say this is the only really practical information I have come across that makes sense – and really works!