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The Codependent: On Love and Marriage

Kim discusses The Codependent View on Life

Kim Cooper

Do you expect your partner to ‘cheer you up’ whenever you feel sad?
‘Keep you happy’ whenever you are in a bad mood?
Are you aware these are signs of emotional immaturity?
Instead of attracting love, these expectations may cause resentment.”

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Long term research conducted over 30 years at Stanford University has demonstrated the importance of regulating our emotions. Knowing how to calm ourselves (after we have become emotional) is vital in attracting love and respect.

Unfortunately, reaching emotional maturity can be difficult if we had emotionally immature role models growing up. 

A codependent is a person (usually) raised by an emotionally needy parent, who learned unhealthy ideas about happiness and personal goals . . .

Signs of Codependency

Codependency has come to describe a pattern of emotionally dependent behaviour, particularly in relationships and in marriage.

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As a child were you expected to keep one or both of your parents happy? Despite them being needy and demanding and at times quite a handful for an adult to even manage?  Were either of your parents irresponsible, childish, an alcoholic, gambler, unfaithful, abusive or have problems not openly discussed in your family?

You may have been made to feel special for taking care of an emotionally immature parent; who even treated you more like an adult than a child. But was this ‘special treatment’ at the expense of your own emotional development and needs?

This role may have won you special favour, but probably still felt uncomfortable. This is because a child’s needs and personality have little room for expression or growth in this kind of parent/child relationship.

How a Codependent Becomes an Emotional Manipulator

A child who has grown up in this environment may end up with some unhealthy ideas about what level of emotional care-taking is normal & healthy for an adult to expect.

Believing you need someone to manage your negative emotions, can cause a person to become emotionally manipulative.

It can also make you to think people ‘bad’ if they don’t respond to your emotions in a particular way.

Especially troubling is that codependency may also lead to psychosomatic illness.  As a result of subconsciously using sickness in an attempt to attract love and care.

I used to be guilty of this kind of emotional manipulation. It took me a long time to see that my codependency was destroying my marriage, making me unattractive and ruining my life. If you would like to learn to overcome these negative patterns, I hope you will sign up for my free introductory tutorial . . .

Kim’s Steps to a Better Marriage
Free Introductory Tutorial
100% Privacy - The tutorial will open on this page

Includes the free video, “3 Habits that Destroy Love”

Signs of Codependency in Your Marriage

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Are You Married to a Codependent?

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