The Codependent: Overcome Your Codepndent View on Love & Marriage
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The Codependent: On Love and Marriage

Kim discusses The Codependent View on Life
Kim Cooper

Do you expect your partner to ‘cheer you up’ whenever you feel sad or ‘Keep you happy’ whenever you are in a bad mood? Are you aware that these are signs of emotional immaturity that may cause resentment instead of nurturing love?

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Codependency has come to describe a pattern of emotionally dependent behaviour, particularly in relationships and in marriage.

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Reaching emotional maturity can be difficult if you had emotionally immature role models growing up

A codependent is a person (usually) raised by an emotionally needy parent, who learned unhealthy ideas from this parent about happiness and personal goals.

A child who has grown up in this environment may end up with some unhealthy ideas about what level of emotional care-taking is normal and healthy for an adult to expect.

As a child were you expected to keep one or both of your parents happy? Despite them being needy and demanding and at times quite a handful for even an adult to manage?  Were either of your parents irresponsible, childish, an alcoholic, gambler, unfaithful, abusive or have problems not openly discussed in your family?

You may have been made to feel special for taking care of this emotionally immature parent; who may have treated you more like an adult than a child. But, was this ‘special treatment’ at the expense of your own emotional development and needs?

This role may have won you special favour, but probably still felt uncomfortable. This is because a child’s needs and personality have little room for expression or growth in this kind of parent/child relationship.

How a Codependent Becomes an Emotional Manipulator

A child who has grown up in this environment may end up with some unhealthy ideas about what level of emotional care-taking is normal & healthy for an adult to expect.”

Believing you need someone to manage your negative emotions, can cause you to become emotionally manipulative.

It can also make you think people are ‘bad’ if they don’t respond to your emotions in a particular way.

Especially troubling; codependency may also lead to psychosomatic illness—from subconsciously using sickness in an attempt to attract love and care.

I used to be guilty of this kind of emotional manipulation. It took me a long time to see that my codependency was destroying my marriage, making me unattractive and ruining my life. If you would like to learn to overcome these negative patterns, I hope you will sign up for my introductory tutorial . . .

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