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If you are living with a codependent partner, you may recognise some of these signs of codependency in your marriage:

Insensitive to Your Needs

  • Does your partner always want to talk about your relationship when you would rather be doing something else?
  • Are they always criticising you and claiming you are responsible for their unhappiness?
  • Do they expect you to make them happy, not noticing that you are not happy either?
  • Do they complain about you to their friends and your children?

Demanding

  • If you don’t care for your partner—in all the ways they want you to—do they say something is wrong with you?
  • They expect things from you that you really don’t know how to give?
  • Do they claim you are heartless if you don’t put their needs before your own?
  • They expect you to guess what they need and get upset and angry when you don’t?

Emotionally Manipulative

  • Do they do things for you that you really don’t ask for or want—but then get upset when you don’t give something in return?
  • Is your partner often emotional, moody or sick and expecting you to care about them more than you do?

Immature

  • Does your partner expect you to do things for them that you find surprising for an adult to need?

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This Post Has 5 Comments

    1. I can’t see your point Graham. I fear you’re so NPD that your wife has “forced” you to read this article and your comment was ALL you had to say about it. Please tell me I’m wrong!

      After the last two weeks of silence-treatment and occasional fights with my how-should-I-call-Him, I’m bewildered and scared and have issues in understanding if my perceptions are right

  1. Yes I feel this black and white polarised view of relationships where one is codependent the other the narcissist polarising and inaccurate. I believe people can display both behaviours and whole psychologist industries making multimillion dollars profits are created around defining complex human beings into simplistic labels which pathologies anybody potentially. I have found psychology and psychiatry as well as organised religiosity some of the most potentially dangerous and spiritually blind practices of our times. Jesus is Lord though perhaps psychology would try and put that down to delusion on any ones part who confesses it. Watching video with interest. I hope your works are for good and many find hope and progress in them. Blanket statements using always and nevers usually raise red flags for me though.

  2. I see your point, Claire, I really do (black-and-white-polarised views; whole psychologist industries making multimillion dollars profits around defining complex human beings into simplistic labels; psychiatry as well as organised religiosity some of the most potentially dangerous and spiritually blind practices of our times; Jesus is Lord; statements using always and nevers raise red flags for me). At the same time, having read almost everything Kim has written, I can assure you her work is NOT black-and-white-polarised and not dangerous, it’s quite the OPPOSITE! So if you have found this site because you’re in need, please read on, and on and on. You will see what I mean. It truly helps

  3. From the FRont page of this website:

    Please note that most people have a mixture of narcissistic and codependent tendencies. Many men, for instance, will play the narcissistic role at home while acting co-dependently at work. Our aim here is to help you identify the patterns, not diagnose yourself or someone else.

    You should also note that in most cases our team have found these labels stereotypes which do not represent the real person. Despite the pain and suffering these mindsets undoubtedly cause; our experience has shown them to be learned behaviour and NOT incurable psychiatric conditions.

    Couples can certainly outgrow narcissism and codependence as our story and work both demonstrate.

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