Narcissism is only one side of the dance. It is much easier to blame your partner, but can you face the 6 signs of your codependency?
▢ Low Self Esteem
- You need the support and approval of other people to feel good about yourself and move forward with your plans and goals?
- Your happiness and ability to work towards your goals are closely tied to what your spouse thinks of you?
▢ Low Self Love and Personal Care
- Have you suffered from an illness that was perhaps psychosomatic; where you became sick because you believed you were not getting enough love and attention?
- Do you long for a ‘hero’ to save you?
- You spend your life waiting for your partner to call?
▢ Lack of Personal Responsibility
- You avoid facing your addictions and instead blame them on your mother, father, husband, wife or children’s bad behaviour?
- You are emotionally demanding—using moods to get your partner to give you love? i.e. “I am sad, so you should take care of me!”
- Do you often feel your marriage partner has stolen—and is hence responsible for—your happiness?
▢ Misplaced Responsibility
- You feel responsible for your husband or wife’s negative feelings?
- If someone is upset with you saying, “No” to them—even when they are not around—you find it difficult to stay focused on your own life and goals?
▢ You Expect Others to Read Your Mind
- Do you believe someone guessing your needs is a sign of love?
- Have you expected support from your partner without asking?
▢ Misplaced Trust
- Have you expected people in your life to play fair even when they have given you no reason to trust them?
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If you would like to address the signs of your codependence, please begin with our easy to read book; titled “10 Steps to Overcome Codependence”. If you don’t have a lot of time, the steps in this concise book are an excellent place to start. Simple guidelines to shift your life away from this unhealthy way of looking at relationships.
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