Beyond Marriage Counselling . . .
“As long as you hold (hidden) opposing views on life, talking about ‘who-said-what-and-why’ in marriage counselling will never fix your marriage problems!”
When a couple walk into marriage counselling together, both have usually decided to give their marriage time, attention & money. With this kind of commitment and a professional counsellor in the lead, you would expect finding matrimonial harmony should be easy.
For many couples, marriage counselling does not end up what what they expected.”
Rather than bring them closer, each partner will work to get the counsellor on-side, and end up squaring off in opposite corners. The sessions then become a battle of ‘two against one’, with the counsellor negotiating (or advocating for) a divorce or separation. Beyond this type of ‘marriage counselling tug-o-war’, a healthy view on relationships grows from the wisdom known in social science as emotional intelligence. Sometimes simply called maturity, emotional intelligence is the wisdom of understanding your emotions.
Emotional Intelligence Training as an Alternative to Marriage Counselling
Research has shown that Emotional Intelligence, improves your quality of life in every way science can measure!
Scientists following thousands of test subjects throughout their lives have discovered people with 4 major emotional competencies (central to an emotionally intelligent view on life) do better on every scale of success devised so far by science.
Emotionally competent people live in better homes, in more peaceful suburbs, make more money, enjoy higher rates of job and marriage satisfaction and experience lower rates of divorce and mental illness in their families. Along with their children they do better at sport, school and work and enjoy better health and social connections (1).
Most important of all these competencies is good vagal tone (2) which, put simply, means being able to calm down quickly after an upset. Vagal tone is the most important indicator of happiness and success in life and can be improved with a few simple exercises.
– I will share these exercises with you (and the other emotional competencies) in our free tutorial which you can sign up for on the page here . . .
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What is Narcissism? – Kim & Steve Cooper – Our Narcissistic/Codependent Society
Narcissism & Porn – Kim & Steve Cooper – Our Narcissistic/Codependent Society
Codependency & Conscience – Kim & Steve Cooper – Our Narcissistic/Codependent Society https://youtu.be/TS9T4s42BKo
CCN – UnSpun 014 – Kim Cooper – Saving the Family – with Jan Irvin & Joe Atwill
Watch this interview with Kim to find out what eldest daughters and the military have in common & how our culture and government is pulling families apart.