Where the Love Safety Net Began
After ten years of married life fighting, I was eventually directed to information that led me to suspect my husband Steve was suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder—sometimes known as Narcissism or NPD.
The professionals I turned to at that time told me outright there was no hope. They treated me like an idiot for believing our marriage could improve and Steve could get better. Their only advice was to change the locks and file for divorce.
Signs of Narcissism in Your Marriage . . .
Steve’s behaviour definitely was hurting me, but I refused to abandon him. In my heart I knew that leaving was the wrong thing for me to do. I still loved him and knew in my heart there had to be answers. I sought all the help I could find.
When none of this helped, I started looking beyond traditional marriage counselling advice at two areas of people management skills where the experts couldn’t say to just to cut people out of your life. I began studying corporate leadership training & parenting skills, where at last I found the steps which finally brought peace to our home.
People were still saying I was stupid not to leave. But I became even more determined that just maybe there was a way I could bring peace to our home.”
You must understand I am not saying the fighting was all Steve’s fault. Back then I was focused on Steve being the problem but was about to come face to face with my role in our sad ‘dance’.
Eventually, I learned my role was called codependency, which explains why some people are repeatedly attracted to people with a narcissistic view of life. Narcissism and codependency are sometimes called ‘a dance’ (of destruction and despair).
- Have you had difficulty forming healthy relationships?
- Has attracting lasting love been painful?
- Do you feel emotionally neglected and in despair?
- Have you had more than one troubled relationship?
I want to share how I eventually healed my codependency and how this changed everything for me and also helped Steve.
If you are ready to take the lead in creating a more peaceful home life, please sign up for my free introductory lesson. This lesson includes a free short movie where I discuss three things you must stop doing immediately. Things you probably do every day!